New Year…Who dis?
Happy Happy New Year my loves, I don’t know about you all but I am just so excited to start this year strong and accomplish all of my goals. Last year was pretty rough for me, all round rough. I mean like mentally, emotionally, financially, you name it. But I am determined to turn it all round and kick some New Year ass starting with my New Year Resolutions.
With that being said I want to share some of the goals and Life changes I am tackling to make this “My year”. You know the people that say every year, “This is my year” , “Day one of my diet, I got this”, or “Headed to the gym, wish me luck” but by the end of February they’ve already to succumb to old habits. Yeah, I’m determined not to be one of those people. And at the same time I want to encourage you to go against the grain and make this your year for real this time!!!
The first and most important lifestyle change I am making is taking responsibility for my actions and my life.
Reflecting on my journey to where I am now, I realize that there are tons of opportunities that I let pass me by. There are decisions that I’ve made that I look back on and wish I chosen different. Where I am now with everything is simple.
The past is the past and I cannot change that but I have endless possibilities right now that are direct reflections of my choices.
The second lifestyle change I am making is ditching the excuses.
Im ready to see what life will offer me when I stop making excuses and take action instead. I have already experienced what it feels like to put in hard work and see great results. Its time to expand on that and go for the gold if you will. Consistency and discipline are two of the biggest battles I face personally but I haven’t given up and I don’t plan to
any time soon…EVER
The one habit that I am implementing and have been for a while now, is self motivation(mantras and affirmations). Some of you may know by now that I swear by self affirmations and mantras and the process of conditioning your mind. Breaking free of old, limiting, self loathing thoughts and embracing the positive, encouraging ones.
This isnt my first go round making resolutions. But the difference this time is that I’m prepared and committed to making a change. Those are two of the biggest reasons many of our resolutions don’t live to see the spring. We’ll talk about the other reasons a bit later 🙂
Why your New Year resolutions always fail
You lack patience
Real Change doesn’t happen overnight. Maybe in the fairytales we watched as kids but not in real life Honey. I sure as hell wish I had a fairy godmother to shout bibbity bobity boo and cure my obsession with chips. Boom problem solved!!
Unfortunately it doesn’t work like that and breaking that habit will require some work. Let me tell you something I’ve learned…. Get your hands dirty,put in the work…It’ll pay off in the long run.
I guarantee it wont be as bad as you are making it out to be. And you know what else is ok, more important that putting in that Werk…the fact that it will take you some time to see results. It may take longer than you expected to achieve but think about the fact that you are closer now than you have ever been. Simply because you started.
Sh*t gets hard
Lets be real, We all have the quitter voice in our heads. The one that whispers, “I can’t do this” “Ugh this is hard” or “You know what, Fu*k this” as you proceed to grab that donut, dive into the couch and put on reruns of OITNB. That voice is not who you really are. You are not a quitter, and you Absolutely can do whatever you set your mind to. But you have to truly WANT to change.
I personally think that the reason we give up or don’t try is simple. We tell ourselves that we can’t so we don’t try. Change the way you speak to yourself in addition to going after those goals. Tell yourself everyday how strong you are and that you can make it happen and it will happen.
Even if you’ve quit something one million times over it doesn’t make a difference. What does matter is the ONE time that you decide I’m not going to quit and see your goals through. It’s possible, trust me…But only when we truly believe that it is.
You are not prepared
Did you just up and decide on New years eve, “I’m gonna stop (drinking/smoking/etc) for the new year”.? First off I want to know what sparked that desire in you? Were you in the midst of the bad habit you were vowing to stop? Were you observing someone who has already made it to where you want to be?
It really matters where the intention comes from when you are trying to break away from a habit that you have gotten so comfortable with. Its almost like saying, “For the new year, I’m not going to work anymore.” Hell yeah it sounds nice. But Reality check…You’ve got bills, responsibilities, possibly mouths to feed. Just up and abandoning your job without a plan is not realistic. Same goes for these resolutions that you’ve set up. Make a plan, have a back up plan and most importantly mentally prepare yourself for the change that is coming.
Depending on the type of person you are, you may need someone to keep you in line and make sure you are doing what needs to be done. If this is you, own it….many of us really do need that person to kick us in the ass when we’re slacking and that’s OK.
Find someone you trust, or someone with the same goal as you. You can inspire each other and hold each other fully responsible for your progress or lack there of. Search for a support forum or club. You’d be surprised at all of the people who are willing to help those in need as well as those who are in need of the same support you are looking for.
You don’t really want it
Who are you making these New years resolutions for? Answer that in all honesty. You can’t do it because you secretly want to please someone or because someone told you that you should.
The real drive for change comes from within. It comes from being tired of using old tactics and seeing old results.
Maybe you just aren’t ready to let go of your vice because it brings you some sort of joy. Hey, if that is the case stay true to yourself and start making promises when you are truly ready to commit. But if you really want to see what life will be like if you try something new, drop the excuses and get to work!!
You can most definitely make this your year and achieve all you have set out for yourself. It takes patience, drive and a really good effort to get you on your way.
You can do it, I know you can!
I would love to hear about the resolutions you have for 2017 and how you plan on making it happen.
Let the fun begin,